There seems to be a growing epidemic in the Abilene area. It has been here as long as I can remember and only continues to get worse. It's called... DRAMA! The worst part about this epidemic is that it is 100% curable yet no one seems to have the desire for it to get any better. And, despite my best efforts, I've learned the hard way that you can't save everyone... especially if they don't want to save themselves. But, what I can do is pass along some information and personal opinions on the matter.
So, here's the newsflash people. LIFE DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY! I've lived outside the confines of this God Forsaken town and I can tell you from personal experience that living this way is just not right!
To All Of The Women: Guess what! Being beaten to a bloody pulp because you speak out of turn is NOT RIGHT! A man hitting your child because they're drunk and need to take out their aggression is NOT RIGHT! Having eight different "baby daddies" and expecting welfare to pay for your mistakes is NOT RIGHT! Spending your child support money on going out and getting drunk is NOT RIGHT! Trading your food stamps for drugs is NOT RIGHT! Using your children as leverage to get the father of your children to pay attention to you is NOT RIGHT! Sitting around and plotting how to make someone else's life more miserable than yours so that you can feel better about your life for a split second is NOT RIGHT!
To All Of The Men: Guess what! Getting a girl pregnant, no matter how messed up you were that night, and not taking care of your child(ren) is NOT RIGHT! Beating the crap out of ANYONE just to feel like a man is NOT RIGHT! Thinking you're not the definition of a dead beat dad, yet you don't pay child support and never talk to your kids is NOT RIGHT! Sleeping with multiple women and leading them all to believe you're faithful is NOT RIGHT! Using your "baby mama" as a back-up whenever you're lonely is NOT RIGHT! Going out to the bar every night when you know you have responsibilities to take care of at home is NOT RIGHT! Participating in illegal acts because you don't have the drive to get your ass up and go get a job is NOT RIGHT!
And, that's only the tip of the iceberg, my friends. GROW UP, PEOPLE! I mean seriously! There is more to life than this!
There are a world of people out there and every single last one of them is different and interesting in their own way! There are a million different cultures that believe is so many things and you can learn about and experience them if you would just open your mind! There are tons of different foods you can try, art you can experience and lessons you can learn that will make you a better person!
I'm lucky. I've grown up in a family that doesn't discriminate or judge a book by its cover. I was always taught that opening your mind to all possibilities made you a better person for what you could learn. And, you know what? It was all true! And, for those of you that think you need a vast amount of money in order to do this... so not true. I've had the pleasure of sharing a sandwich with a 67 yr old homeless guy named Marcus. We sat on a park bench, eating a turkey, cheese and mayo sandwich, talking about his life and experiences. I learned more about who I was and what kind of person I wanted to be from that 45 minute conversation than I did in all the time I spent in school.
I understand how hard it is to live in a dead beat town designed to keep everyone in poverty. I get it. I've been on both sides of the fence and I totally used to be one of those drama-stricken, big mouthed women who fed off of other people's misery. But, not anymore! I realize that it's a disease of sorts and like any good recovery program, the first step to changing is HONESTY. And, this doesn't just mean speaking your mind to everyone. This also means being honest with yourself. Why are you using your child(ren) as leverage? Be honest. I bet you it's because you're lonely and you want someone to care about your situation as much as you do. That's when you need to take a step back and realize that you got yourself into that situation and you need to put your "big girl" panties on and be a strong woman for your child. If the father doesn't care about his kid(s), his loss. You can't make someone care if they don't want to and you can't change someone. They need to change themselves. So, worry about you, get your shit straight and grow up. The truth hurts... suck it up because that's life.
Considering cheating on your significant other? Be honest with them! If you're thinking about cheating then you're obviously not happy in your current relationship, so why are you staying in it? Instead of cheating, how about you be honest with your significant other and just tell them that you're not happy. Then, you can make the choice of whether or not you want to work on things with that person or if you're ready to call it quits. If you call an end to your relationship because you're honest with that person, I can personally guarantee you that it will hurt the other person a lot less than going behind their back to deceive them. And, it takes a lot less effort than trying to keep up a lie. Again, grow up!
It's simple. Less drama = less stress. Less stress = more time for happiness. And, everyone wants to be happy, right?
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